I just saw this ad playing before a youtube video and I had to stop and watch the whole thing. Incredible.
Watch this. Now
…We have commercials like this now. It’s not perfect.
I don’t think it ever will be. But progress. Progress is good.
People’s response to a rapist truck driver trying to take a 16 year old runaway girl
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT YOU GUYS
That woman is my heroine
I want to say thank you all for watching something so important. This can lead to the saving of other boys and girls from being raped and kidnapped. All it takes is one voice to save a life.I just cried
It’s the curse of the teenage girl, isn’t it? Ridiculed at every corner. God forbid a teenage girl could have a passion for anything. God forbid a teenage girl could know what she wants.
It’s a fucking curse. You fall in love, it’s bullshit. You’re talented, it’s bullshit. You love something, bullshit. You care about something, bullshit. You destroy something bullshit. Something kills you, bullshit!
We’re all so trivial. Nothing we say has any weight, any precedence. Because we don’t know shit.
What do we like? Who cares. What do we love? Who fucking cares. We hate ourselves and we’re called dramatic and self-obsessed. We love ourselves and we’re called dramatic and self-obsessed. Since when was loving yourself a character flaw? Fuck. I think it’s astounding. Why wouldn’t you want to raise a generation of strong, proud girls? I know why, because you’re fucking scared, and you don’t even realise it. Somewhere, in the back of your head, past all the patriarchal bullshit, you know what we’re capable of. And don’t look at me like that, I know what the patriarchy is, and that’s exactly my fucking point. You underestimate us, you reduce us down to silly little girls.
In the back of your head, you’re scared for us to have voices, you don’t want us to have power. Because then, then we’ll speak up about the shit you put us through. And you know what? If you don’t educate us, if you refuse to educate us, we’ll educate ourselves.
I am so, so sick of this biased crazy bitch-teenager idea. Being passionate doesn’t make us crazy. And even if we are crazy, so fucking what? It’s you who made us like this.
You, who raised your daughter to keep her voice down. You, who taught her it’s better to be meek. You, who told her she just drunk too much, helped her throw out her ripped underwear, and never thought to ask questions. You, who told her sex was an obligation. And you, for telling her it’s a bargaining tool. Her desires aren’t natural. Don’t act, don’t speak. Repress, repress, repress. Repent, repent, repent. Be ashamed. Shut your mouth.
You shut it for her though.
Every lesson, every time you ignored her need, you plucked out another vocal chord. And you kept going and you kept teaching until her throat was empty, and you stole her words and threw her voice box down a fucking well so no one would ever hear her speak again. And you think we’re the crazy ones? You’re draining the life from you daughter so you can stick it in a glass vial and give it to your son in law.
You want us to be meek? You want us to be quiet. We’re fucking monsters. You made us, you’ve silenced us, and now we’re going to scream and scream until you notice.
Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, “I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses or acts, it is not an invitation to cat call, taunt, harass or assault her”?
Or when you told your son, “A woman’s virginity isn’t a prize and sleeping with a woman doesn’t earn you a point”?
How about the heart-to-heart where you lovingly conferred the legal knowledge that “a woman doesn’t have to be fighting you and you don’t have to be pinning her down for it to be RAPE. Intoxication means she can’t legally consent, NOT that she’s an easy score.”
Or maybe you recall sharing my personal favorite, “Your sexual experiences don’t dictate your worth just like a woman’s sexual experiences don’t dictate hers.”
Last but not least, do you remember calling your son out when you discovered he was using the word “slut” liberally? Or when you overheard him talking about some girl from school as if she were more of a conquest than a person?
I want you to consider these conversations and then ask yourself why you don’t remember them. The likely reason is because you didn’t have them. In fact, most parents haven’t had them.
Unlike feminism, and despite its name, womanism does not emphasize or privilege gender or sexism; rather, it elevates all sites and forms of oppression, whether they are based on social-address categories like gender, race, or class, to a level of equal concern and action. Womanism’s link to gender is the fact that the historically produced race/class/gender matrix that is Black womanhood serves as the origin point for a speaking position that freely and autonomously addresses any topic or problem. Because Black women experience sexism, and womanism is concerned with sexism, feminism is confluent with the expression of womanism, but feminism and womanism cannot be conflated, nor can it be said that womanism is a ‘version’ of feminism.
This is from The Womanist Reader. Here she illustrates how womanism involves a feminist component, but is also concerned with many anti-oppression theories and praxes, not solely feminism. Because feminism—especially among middle class White women—has a long history of not being intersectional, at times the word “feminist” alone is not a sufficient descriptor for someone committed to multiple facets of anti-oppression work. (I also pondered feminisms as plural before..)
For Black women concerned with justice in multiple areas, not solely regarding sexism, misogyny, misogynoir and transmisogyny, but also say…uh racism, classism/poverty, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, ableism and more, womanism speaks to this praxis. It’s inherently intersectional from the race/gender/class matrix that speaks to many Black women’s lives globally, as she alluded to in the quote. This is why some White feminists have adopted the phrase “intersectional feminism” to illustrate a commitment beyond gender justice alone.
This quote and one I recently blogged on three central points of womanism are really important in acknowledging its similarities to and differences from feminism (which remember, Audre Lorde let us know that differences, in general, are OKAY). The differences aren’t only epistemological or experiential but also kinda…cultural. In Alice Walker’s writing on womanism, connectedness, community and wholeness are alluded to; facets that directly conflict with individualism as proliferated by Whiteness.